CONVENIENT TECHNOLOGY

I'm in love with my BB (not Bottom Bitch). Part of my life is much easier since my first BB. First off, I'm not big on exchanging verbiage over the phone unless I know its going to be a positive talk or a woman I am interested in beyond sex. Yes I'll make a call when necessary or answer when I'm called but most likely its to get the full value of the money I pay monthly for the service. All in all I do everything with my BB except fondle it. Email, txt, video, voice recording, internet, qwerty, memory card and all the apps I can fit, what's not to love.

90% of the articles and blogs I've written have been on my BB. I'm not saying it replaces a laptop completely but it does make for a great sub. I can get up with the Twits, go all facebook on somebody and when feeling trapped get Myspace. Of course other phones can do that but I'm working in the land of bias for a hot second - yes, I'm talking to you, you iPhoner - and this is what I like.

This is not a knock on anyone who doesn't have a BB or some other PDA style phone because and the end of the day to each his own. Just wanted to share...and kill a few minutes while I sit on this train wondering where can I go for a quick getaway that'll charge me like Marcus Burnett but treat me like Mike Lowery.

TABLES TURNING

Maybe it’s just me but I’ve been noticing for a while now that women are getting it in. Neyo must have noticed too when he penned “Independent Woman”. Yes, we have certain women who was, is and will remain a staple in the world of bosses – Oprah, Tyra, Paris (she’s not really dumb contrary to public opinion) but I’m talking about the ones that are no know to the masses, not yet anyway.

These are the women of tomorrow and I have to tip my fitted to them. Take a good friend of mine for example. L’amour De La Mode is a fashion line started by her and two friends. They hooked up with a prominent business partner/mentor and just recently showcased their line for some potential clients/investors and have earned their own show in the next coming months so, Kimora, Ellen, Tracy better watch out. I know another woman whose blog is blowing up something serious, I’m sure NY is already on it so its just a matter of time before the rest of the world catches on. Check it out http://www.str8nyc.com/, you’ll see what I mean. Here’s a woman I admire because she doesn’t make any excuses and finds a way to make it happen. Intelligent, cultured, and has her fingers on the pulse of the city with the latest in hip hop you can catch her posts at www.examiner.com, she’s our premier NY Rap Examiner. Can’t forget to mention her Boss Bitch Chronicles blog. It’s funny, entertaining, and insightful.

These are women who are not settling for less, not relying on any dude for anything they can get themselves except for maybe, you know, but even with that you have to act right my man. I’m talking about women that are calling the shots and making things happen, as they want it, in my book that’s very attractive and sexy. Women are starting their climbing their own corporate ladders and starting a trend in the world of business, music, networking, finance and fashion. They have the balls to be as bold as their male counterparts like myself (shameless plug)

Personally, that is the kind of woman I want. A mentally strong, ambitious, open-minded, risk taking, savvy and funny woman is worth the trouble of getting in her heart and mind. The basics of what a guy wants are looks and body (I’ll get into detail about the package I want some other time); she can be blah blah blah. See after the physical attraction what’s left? I think our new era women have the answer.

MOVING ON

They say it ain't over until the fat lady sings. I think I at least heard her humming. Okay, you still love her, big deal! You want her back, hey people in jail want to come home and not feel a cold shiver run up their spine whenever they drop the soap in the shower. What's the point? The point is it's time to move on. I know it's easier said than done believe me, I've been there and it hurts like a mother@*#. One thing I've learned is that women, most at least, are not going to sit there sulking over you. While you're cooped up in the house ignoring your boys' phone calls your newly beloved ex is out with her friends or out with the dude you inevitably lost her to. So now you have options, answer the phone, hook up with an ex/jump off or take a minute to understand that this may just work out for you in the long run.

(My experience) it was a while before I realized that regardless of what happened between my ex and me, I had to take responsibility for my actions and lack of them. It's pointless to blame her and keep bringing up the past because that's how you stay in the past and allow your future to pass on (you like the play on words right, yeah). Things happen for a reason; maybe the woman you're with isn't ultimately for you or at least not at this point because if it is meant to be, it will be. Sometimes we have to go through heartache and bad times to grow as a person, that's what happened to me. I'm more mature than I was and my eyes opened up to see things in a different light. I was forced to evaluate myself and learn from my mistakes. Am I perfect? Almost, j/k; no, but I am perfect for someone out there and whoever she is, will be getting the best of the new me when the time is right.

Sex, Love and Money are powerful sources of emotion, when your relationship ends and you feel a pain in your chest, you can't or don't want to accept it, just know it’s probably because of lost love. But it’s okay; this could be something that will make you better for what God has in store for you. Moving on is essential, don't be afraid of the unknown. Yeah it could be scary but change can be good, maybe the best thing for you since you just lost the best thing you had. Isn't it time?